Real Talk 22nd July 2015 by Online editors

5 Signs You’re Just Not Ready For A Relationship

Weighing up the pros and cons of a new relationship? If you answer yes to any of these it might be best to stay single.

Samantha Jones

You’ve met a new guy, you reckon he’s pretty awesome and it’s all going great. In fact, you think it’s time to take the plunge and make him your new boyfriend. But, hold up. Are you really ready for a relationship?

Here are five signs you might not be…

1. You’re still not over your ex

It’s been about six months since the breakup yet you’re still pining after your ex, and when you found out he had a new girlfriend it felt like someone had run you over with a bus. We know your head may be telling you the best revenge would be to get a new boyf – but wait! You need to get over this heartbreak without dragging some other guy into it. Time’s a healer, ‘n’ all that.

2. You want someone to ‘fix you’

If you want a new beau because you need someone to listen to all your problems and help solve them, it might be best to stay single… or y’know, spend more time with your gal pals. Boyfriends are not one-size-fits-all problem-fixers. You need to sort your problems out on your own or with the help of a sympathetic ear, instead of relying on some chap to be your saviour.

3. You cheated in your last relationship

If you did the dirty on your last boyfriend it might be a sign you’re not ready to be tied down. According to one study you’re three and a half times more likely to cheat in a future relationship if you cheated in a previous one. So, embrace your single life and avoid breaking some poor fella’s heart if you know you’re just not ready to commit yet.

4. You have major trust issues

Rather than being the cheater, you were the cheatee, and not only did he leave you with a broken heart, he also left you with some serious trust issues. You’re definitely not ready for a relationship if you’re still super-paranoid and think any other boy is going to do the same.

5. You don’t love yourself

Not to get all Oprah on you, but if you don’t love yourself how do you expect anyone else to? You need to know just how great you are – yep, flaws ‘n’ all – if you’re going to expect someone else to see all your awesomeness. And hey, just for the record, we reckon you’re bleedin’ deadly.

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