5 Things You NEED To Know About Your Other Half Before You Get Married
It's one of the most important decisions of your life, so before you trot off down the aisle, it's pretty important you've got your SO sussed.
We don’t mean to scare you or anything, but this is the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. So you’d want to be pretty certain you’re both on the same page when it comes to living the rest of your lives together. You may have settled on the venue, the flowers and the honeymoon quite amicably, but what about more pressing life issues? Will you be as amicable with them?
Here are five things you should definitely double check on before you say ‘I do’.
1. Does he want kids?
This may seem like a totally obvious one but you’d be surprised how many couples say ‘I do’ without discussing this deal breaker. Before you commit yourself to someone for life make sure that you’re on the same page when it comes to reproducing. Whether it’s no kids, or a whole bunch of them this is probably one topic neither of you will budge on, so it’s important to make sure you both agree.
2. Future career plans
You may presume your SO is going to be in the same career he’s in now for the rest of his life, but he may have a totally different idea. Whether he has early retirement plans or dreams of becoming a poet which he plans on pursuing post wedding, for financial reasons it’s something you should totally be touching base on. And if you’re planning to have kids make sure you’ve discussed who’ll be staying home/working part-time, so there are no unrealistic expectations.
3. Deal breakers
You need to know his deal breakers and he deffo needs to know yours before you commit. It may seem pretty obvious, but some deal breakers are more obvious than others. Obviously regular cheating’s a no-go but what if he envisages the two of you going to swinging parties when you get older? Er, ALARM BELLS.
4. Where you want to live
You may have been attracted to his worldliness when you first met, but will his love of travel cause a ruction with your future plans? It’s super important that you have a chat about where you want to set up camp for life. Because if one of you wants to emigrate to Asia while the other one is a total home bird then trouble could be on the horizon.
5. Past relationships
You may not have approached the topic before and the thought of him with other women may send you cray, but getting this over and done with will provide you with a wealth of information for your future relationship. Has he ever cheated? What was his longest relationship? Does he have any unfinished business with exes? Any crazy exes? All need to know questions! Make sure you suss out the answers before the big day.
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