6 Signs Your Fella Still Isn’t Over His Ex

Here at Stellar HQ we don’t know how many times we’ve heard ‘don’t date a guy who’s just fresh from a breakup’. Yup, no one wants to be the ‘rebound girl’. Not only is it hard on YOU, it can be just as hard on him, as he’s trying to heal from the last lady he shared his bed sheets with.

We get that starting over with a new beau can be a stressful time when one thing after another seems to point straight back to his former lady love, so if you’re staring a few of these factors in the face and they sound all too familiar, you’ll need to take a step back and really see where you and your partner stand. Here’s how to tell if he’s still lusting after his ex gal.

1. Mr Helpful

Dating someone who is still on call as his ex-girlfriend’s handy man is totally not a good sign, especially if she knows he’s dating you. Sure, your man might just be superman and one of those lads who can’t say no, but ask yourself how he would feel if you were at your ex’s beck and call. Whatever the scenario, if you’re spending time with an ex, we’re willing to bet your man wouldn’t approve. That’s why, even if he swears he’s merely being a gentleman, we say be wary of a guy who runs to help a former girlfriend every time she calls. Got it?

2. She’s a talking point

Soz ladies but the more he talks about her, the less likely he is to be over her #fact. If this is the case, he may on the rebound. We all talk about other people we’ve dated – it’s part of our history after all, but hearing about his most recent ex on a regular basis is a huge hint he still has feelings for her and you should probs run for the hills.

3. He doesn’t want his ex to move on

Any jealousy he shows towards his ex’s new beau speaks volumes about how much he still cares about her. Even if he claims to merely be concerned as a friend or ‘big brother’ figure, there’s no reason for him to care who his ex is dating now that he’s with you. Proceed with caution: She’s moved on – you know because you checked her Facebook status and she’s in a relationship with someone new. He’s checked too, and he doesn’t like it. If he keeps bringing it up, ask him why it bothers him so much.

4. He compares you to her – a lot!

We’ve all felt like we’re competing with an ex. Let’s just say you’ve had a Google stalk only to find out she’s kind of hot and has a great career and really great hair. You’re allowed to hate her a little bit for this. But if he makes you feel like you don’t compare, not only is he not over her, he’s a class A arse, too.

5. He’s stalking her online

While it’s never polite to snoop, sometimes you can’t help but notice if your boyf has been talking to his ex online, whether it’s in the browser history or conversations over social media. Even if they never see each other in the flesh (thank god), this is still a strong indicator that he’s far from over her.

6. He keeps mementos

Yeah we admit we’re are all guilty of holding onto trinkets and gifts from past relationships a little too long. A love letter here or a playlist there is probably alright. But if you find a box full of memories stuffed under his bed or in the back of his closet – out of sight but close enough to rummage through regularly – it’s time to open those old wounds and find out if they’ve really healed.

By Jennifer Conway.

• Dating
• Ex
• love
• Relationships