Trending 8th February 2016 by Victoria Stokes
This Is The Most Common Reason Irish Couples Split, And It Makes Us Feel Really Sad
It wasn't what we were expecting.
If you’d ask us last week to guess what causes most couples to split, we probably would have taken a stab in the dark and cited infidelity, or plain old incompatibility, as the typical root causes.
Then we heard that experts at Relationships Ireland had revealed the true cause of most breakups: money.
Yep, relationships counsellors revealed that the number of couples seeking help in January was up 15% on the previous year, and over half of them were arguing as a result of overspending and bills.
Speaking on the findings Tony Moore, a counsellor with Relationships Ireland explained that in about 50% of cases “financial worries are affecting the relationships, whether that’s unemployment, the struggle to get a permanent job, negative equity, houses facing repossession or all the bills that are coming in.
“It’s particularly daunting in January and people in this situation will often look at the year ahead and wonder how they are possibly going to get through it,” he continues.
“Financial stress also makes it difficult for men to be intimate with their partner because they lose their sense of self-worth and confidence.”
But there is good news, with Tony explaining that most problems are typically getting resolved much quicker and couples are more willing to seek professional help.
“We’re seeing more and more couples just a few weeks after problems start to emerge,” he says, “whereas in the past couples used to wait years, and by that stage it’s often too late to help.”
The bottom line? If you and your other half are having issues, don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help.