What Do Men Really Want In A Relationship? We Asked 5 Guys To Find Out…

Men's minds are a mystery, so we sat down with five lads to find out what's really important to them in a relationship.

Young romantic couple in bed

Colm, 24

Comfort is incredibly important, and I can confidently say that comfort is the main reason why I would stay in a relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a complete softie, I would choose to stay with the lovely lass who can create a warm cuddly atmosphere in which we can escape the noise and stress from the outside world. I love how a woman can have soothing words and a supportive attitude is a big turn on. To put it simply, there’s something calming about a womanly presence. On the flip side, if a woman nags or criticises, I’m less likely to stay in a relationship and would rather do anything to get out. I would pretty much run for the hills.

The most important thing I need from a woman is sex.

Paul, 29

If I’m completely honest  the most important thing I need from a woman is sex. It really is the driving factor. Quite frankly this the reason why most men get up in the morning. It’s embarrassing, but from talking to the lads, it’s the soft feminine nature that drives us wild, I’m talking about silk fabrics and sexy lingerie. We really do notice when you make an effort, as we’re limited in how we can impress you ladies visually in the bedroom department. Basically, most men are unable to function without sex. Don’t think of sex as a kinky desire we have, it all boils down to a gal that is willing to get naked with their man on a regular basis. If you’re that woman, happy days.

James 26,

For me, I’d say finding a girl with a good attitude is probably the most important. Why? Because the world is kinda shitty right now. And despite the fact that student loans are weighing on my head, my mammy’s pressuring me to settle down and my job is nowhere near where I wanted my career to be, I try to maintain a good attitude about it all. I wouldn’t date a girl that can’t keep at least as positive an outlook on life as I can. Personally, it’s a deal breaker.

Nothing gives me more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes me feel invincible.

Donal, 23

I love to be the hero in the relationship, I want to be your Superman. It makes me happy to hold my girlfriend in my arms and show her the world. Or at least feel that way. Letting me see her vulnerable side brings us closer, it automatically makes me want to take care of her. Nothing gives me more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes me feel invincible. If you make me feel that way, I’ll make you feel like you’re the most beautiful creature on this planet.

By Jennifer Conway.


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