6 Pieces Of Dating Advice We’re Calling Bullsh!t On

Our main source of dating know-how comes from our gal pals. After all, whether we’re decoding a guy’s message, prepping for a date or going through some major relationship drama, we usually consult our besties before anyone else.

But unfortunately, sometimes their well-meaning advice can do more harm than good. With unrealistic ideals, outdated notions and sometimes a hidden agenda, listening to your lady friends when it comes to your love life might not always be the best policy. In fact, sometimes it can be downright detrimental.

Here are a few of the worst offenders. We reckon this lot should be thrown out with the trash…

1. You won’t meet Mr right in a bar

You ought to be able to meet guys casually in a non-alcohol-induced daze too, but the reality is that if you’re no longer in uni or don’t have a work environment that allows inter-breeding, a bar is probably the most likely place you’ll come across a potential new fella. Is it possible to meet a nice guy down your local boozer? We say absolutely!

2. Don’t have sex on the first date

It’s completely up to you whether you decide to get down to business on the first date. Our advice? Pay attention to how you feel in the moment, trust your gut and if it feels right go for it!

3. He has to make the first move

Somewhere in the days of old-fashioned values, tucked away neatly in movies like Casablanca and Gone With the Wind, men were expected to approach women and make the first move. But realistically your bold, no-holds-barred approach tells a guy that you’re confident, spontaneous, brave, outgoing, and direct.  Impressive? You betcha!

4. Wait three days after the first date to make contact

C’mon now, really? In today’s modern age of texting, tweeting and WhatsApp, waiting three days without contact is… well, it’s just weird. Contact him when you feel like it and to hell with the rules. It’s not desperate, it shows you’re confident.

5. Never mention your ex

We know this is an age old rule, but believe us, talking about an old relationship, honestly, openly and without bitterness, is a great way to communicate what you want out of a new relationship and it shows you’re an all round top lass. Just don’t spend the whole night badmouthing your past partners, yeah?

6. You’ll find him when you least expect it

If you’re an assertive gal who grabs life by the horns, this type of advice makes zero sense. Why, if you truly want something, would you sit around twiddling your thumbs waiting for some mystical force in the universe to deliver it to you? Wouldn’t you want to figure out how to meet the handsome beaus and where they congregate? Merely waiting won’t accomplish any of that. We say go out and get ’em, gurl.

By Jennifer Conway.

• advice
• Dating
• myths
• Relationships