11 Things You Probably Never Knew About The Female Orgasm

The female orgasm. You’ve been aspiring to conquer the beast since that awkward moment in secondary school when you lost your virginity and realised you knew nothing about female anatomy. Now that you’ve gotten a little older – and wiser, obvs – you at least know where the hell things are (for the most part), but some things still remain a mystery, and even though you can hit that ‘O’ worthy moment from time to time, if you’re being completely honest, sometimes you just can’t quite get there.

Well ladypal, knowledge is power, and while being in the know about the big O doesn’t exactly guarantee you’ll have one, it does mean you’ll be properly informed, so without further ado, here are 12 orgasm facts, that, who knows, could makeover your sex life.

1. Being vocal makes it more intense

When it comes to tantric sex, high-pitched moans bring sexual energy to your chest, throat, and head, while lower-pitched sounds bring the heat to your genitals. There’s a few things you can learn from tantra, and this is definitely one of them. The lesson? Er, get ready to make some noise.

2. The average orgasm is 20 seconds

During that time, women have rhythmic vaginal contractions about every 0.08 seconds, each of which feel hella good. Don’t ignore the clitoris though. It’s packed with roughly 8,000 nerve endings, which could make for a more explosive finish.

3. We are more likely to open up afterwards

Once we climax, oxytocin – a calming, feel-good neurochemical – is released in our brains, making us more likely to open up to our men (lucky them!). So the next time you do the deed and you start start spilling about how you see you two growing old together, take it with a grain of salt.

4. Some positions are better than others

Obviously everyone is different, but according to experts, doggy style is the key to a guaranteed happy ending. The position allows for simultaneous stimulation of the G-spot and clitoris, both of which are the biggest sexual hot spots. Got it.

5. Foreplay makes for a bigger O

Many women take longer to climax than their male partners, and that’s perfectly normal. According to statistics, most women require at least 20 minutes of sexual activity before they can come. So basically the more groping, the better. Foreplay increases your blood flow, making every part of your body more sensitive.

6. Your pain threshold can increase up to 107% during climax

You know that saying about pleasure and pain? Yeah, like that.

7. Having an orgasm is like doing some cardio

No, you can’t bone all day instead of going to the gym, but the grand finale is considered a cardiovascular activity. Your heart rate elevates, and blood pressure and respiratory rate increases, while your body also releases endorphins, all of which happen during a good workout. If only the gym could be this awesome.

8. Anxiety can make it impossible to climax

Stress can really put a damper on things, and when we’re feeling anxious, there’s nothing your fella can do that will be able to get the job done. Plus when we are super stressed we have lower levels of physical arousal, so make sure the environment is a comfortable one and free of judgment.

9. They get better with age

Sure, there are plenty of things to moan about when it comes to age, but your sex life may actually improve—like the quality and frequency of  your orgasms. Additionally, the trust and intimacy that most gals experience in long-term relationships can help improve sexual confidence as well.

10. Your sexual self esteem can affect the quality of your orgasms

Pay attention. You’re less likely to reach peak point if you’re feeling insecure or stressed. Insecurity kills it, and men feel it too. Take time-out, a deep breath and relax… Orgasms are easier obtained when the body is fully relaxed, so let go…

11. Orgasms can happen without genital stimulation

In fact us ladies can have nipple orgasms, clitoral orgasms, and penetrative orgasms. Yes, this is mind-blowing, but it’s no urban legend. Experts say it’s a real phenomenon. Lucky us.

By Jennifer Conway

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