Trending 5th September 2017 by Stellar Magazine
#AskJames: I Saw My Friend’s Boyfriend On Tinder. What Should I Do?
James Kavanagh puts the world to rights by answering your problems.
Dear James,
I was on Tinder and saw my friend’s boyfriend on it. Should I tell her he’s doing the dirt or stay quiet?
Jenny, Dublin
This has happened me before, except it was Grindr. I saw a friend’s boyfriend’s torso on a ‘let’s hook up now’-esque profile. He has a distinctive left nipple. I also recognised the door handle in the background – some people are just not good snakes. If I was to cheat, I’d be a bleedin’ expert at covering my tracks. Anyway, I digress. In short, yes, you should tell your friend. That’s where your loyalty lies. What if he gave your friend an STD? That’d be on your conscience. Screen-shot that shit and show her, or pick a braver member of your group to do the deed.
Got a problem? Snap James @JAMESKSNAPS or email INFO@STELLAR.IE with the subject line “Ask James”.
This article first appeared in STELLAR’s June issue. Our September issue is on shelves now.
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