I Can’t Be The Only One Who Thinks Foreplay Is Overrated?! Can I?

One STELLAR staffer thinks foreplay is a total turn-off. Is she on her own, or is this a common thought? We Investigate.


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Ever since I became sexually active I’ve never been a big fan of foreplay. I mean I get that it makes sense to warm up before you head in full force but to be honest I’d rather skip all of that and get down to the good stuff.

There’s something really off putting about a man taking so long and trying so hard to get me to the point that I can get myself to with a lot less time and er, effort.

And unless you’re one of the lucky few who are gifted in the foreplay department, chances are you’re just going to have to fake it over and over again. Nightmare!

I asked around my social circle and it turns out I am definitely in the minority. People were shocked that I don’t enjoy foreplay and want to get down and dirty without all the prep.

Unhappy with the consensus I decided to conduct my own research to see if I’m a total weirdo or if some gals are of the same mind. As it turns out I’m not alone and I’ve found a study to prove it!

According to research carried out by the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the majority of women do think foreplay is overrated and admit that it adds little to their overall enjoyment of sex. The study examined the sex lives of more then 2,300 women and found that on average foreplay lasts for 15.4 minutes and intercourse lasts for 16.2 minutes.

The researchers said, “In contrast to the assumptions of many sex therapists and educators, more attention should be given to improve quality and duration of intercourse rather than foreplay”.

After finding this research, I decided to ask some of our fab STELLAR readers if they thought foreplay was all it’s cracked up to be, or totally overrated:

Sarah, 26

“I am all for foreplay, when it’s done right, of course. It is the perfect prelude to sex and I think sometimes it’s even better than sex; better for orgasms anyway! But if a guy has no idea what he’s doing it can have the complete opposite effect and put you off sex.”

Trish, 22

“I think foreplay is totally overrated. Men seem to be obsessed with it and are only satisfied when they make you orgasm from it. I’ve had to fake it countless amounts of times and I’m sick of it! I just want to get straight to the good stuff!”

Joanne, 20

“I think foreplay success depends on the situation. If you’re having a spontaneous quickly there’s no time or need for it, but if you’re planning a long sex sesh, the more foreplay the better!”

So, it seems that I’m not totally alone in my thoughts on foreplay but I think it’s fair to say a lot of women absolutely love it. I’m no longer as concerned with my lack of desire for foreplay because regardless of what you’re into, we all have the same goal at the end of sexy time so, who cares how you get there?

What do you reckon? Is foreplay an essential part of sex or totally overrated? Drop us a comment and let us know below.


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